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Erik Schindler

Registered Clinical Counsellor, #16573

MBA, MCP, PhD (Cand.), RCC

Focus Area: 

  • Anxiety & Depression

  • Marriage & Relationships

  • OCD

  • Men’s Issues

  • Trauma & Abuse


While there are many different ways that I can help in counselling, I find that I do my best work in the following areas:

Couples:  

You are able to communicate with your partner just fine, thank you very much.  As long as it’s about household chores, the kids or mundane “have to” things. Try and communicate about something that matters, and everything goes to hell.  And quite often that lack of communication ends up in an argument. Which you both recognize is happening more and more often and neither of you are happy with that.

I know how hard it is to be in a relationship with someone and feel like you are just roommates, and not much more.  I can help you learn to communicate so that you feel heard, validated and that the other gets you. Together, we can start to discover ways to help you invest in each other more, and start feeling like you’re doing life together again rather than as two individuals.

Men:  

You are feeling so much pressure.  Every time you turn around, someone is asking something of you.  Your boss is demanding that you show up more at work, and that you put more time and effort in.  Your partner is saying you work too much and that you don’t spend enough time connecting. Your ex-wife is demanding that you are there for your kids more, and that you not ignore her requests.  This all makes you feel anxious on a pretty regular basis. It’s hard to “come down” in the evening or on the weekend. But you can’t break. You need to be strong, and seeking help from someone, especially a counsellor shows that you are weak and can’t do this on your own.  After all, you’re supposed to be the fixer, not go to someone for fixing!

I get it.  Other than the obvious fact that I am a man, I get that you need a different approach to therapy.  We aren’t going to do all that “fluffy” work, and talk about feelings our whole session. Although, we both know there are some feelings in there - anger, fear, resentment…

I provide a space to think through the logistics of life together and find a way of making changes so that you feel a bit freer to be present in all of your roles, and speak up for yourself when needed.  Together we can work together to stop experiencing that sadness you’re feeling more often than you want to admit, or that buzzing that won’t seem to go away.

OCD:  

You’ve noticed that your unwanted, intrusive thoughts and repeating behaviours have started to take up more and more space in your life. You’re spending far more time and energy on them than you’re comfortable with; perhaps you’re spending all your time and energy on them.  You’ve noticed that these things you keep doing are affecting your relationship with yourself and others.  You’ve Googled everything you can, and have read a few self-help books, but it’s not helping. You need help learning how to reduce the obsessions so that you have more control in how your life looks.  You’re so tired of OCD having a bigger voice in your life than you do. More than anything, you just want it to stop.

I can help.  Together we will explore different tools to help you manage the thoughts and behaviours that are preventing you from being fully present and living the life you want and deserve.  I can also help you rebuild your self-confidence and the value that you see in yourself. Recognizing these and building them in your life can help you learn what tools help you have more control, and that you are not your OCD.


A Little About Me

I am a Registered Clinical Counsellor (#16573), with a Master’s of Counselling Psychology degree from Adler University. I also hold a Master’s of Business Administration and am a PhD Candidate in International Management and Organization at the University of Victoria, with a specialization in mental health in organizations. Like many of you, I have gone through many changes to be where I am at now, and I find that much of my work is in dealing with the uncertainty of change, and helping people with the depression and anxiety that comes when life throws us a curveball. My therapeutic approach is person-centered, strengths-based, trauma-informed, and existential. I like to integrate traditional talk therapy with some do-at-home mindfulness and meditation exercises, to help clients learn to be present, and not ruminate on the past or worry about the future.

I have also taken training outside of my graduate schooling. I work often with clients dealing with trauma, and have trained in Observed and Experiential Integration (OEI) – a trauma-specific therapy – to assist clients in integrating and moving beyond their traumatic experiences. I enjoy working with couples, and have taken Gottman Method Couples Therapy training – a research-based method designed to help couples learn to avoid relationship pitfalls, communicate effectively, and develop shared meaning. I also have experience working with people struggling with OCD, or OCD-like symptoms, and the challenging thought patterns that come with this. Always, my goal is to help my clients become the individuals that they want and know that they can be.

To learn a little more about me, you can find my private practice website here:


Contact

Use the Online Booking button below to see my next availability and book online. Or, if you are a new client and would like to make an appointment booking, please click the New Client Inquiry button and fill out the form. Please use the Existing Clients button to contact Erik directly by email.

Office Hours

Tuesdays

Thursdays

Rates: 

  • Free - Brief phone consult

  • $126 - 50 minute session

  • $189 - 75 minute session